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Post by Joe Karlosi on Sept 11, 2009 7:55:49 GMT -5
Okay, this may run a little long but please hear me out. In other threads our friend John S. Damm has mentioned how he has to sneak his box sets to his office so that his wife won't see them, and I'm sure many males can relate to this. I myself sometimes do things like that (it's funny how the wife never suspects a thing ;D ) but I must say that in my case, my wife is usually pretty good about things like this as long as I don't bust her chops when she does ridiculous things like spending almost $200 to get her hair done once. It's kind of Even Steven, or at least it should be. That's why I was so happy that my wife did not raise a fuss abput my re-buying all these Beatles albums - UNTIL THIS MORNING, that is. My wife just yelled at me and ripped me a new one and it took everything in my power not to let her have it right back, and worse. You see, in the past I have always yelled right back, worse than a raging hurricane -- but in recent years I've been trying to stay calmer, plus the fact that I have throat issues and can't afford to scream anymore. I'm going to be 50 in a few years, for cripe's sake -- and my wife is 41 - I just don't see the point about being immature about things like this anymore. The reason for her fury this morning goes like this... Firstly, at my job, I will NEVER work overtime. We have different lists you can sign on, one if you want overtime. But I am a happy 40-hours-a-week Man, and that's that. But a new thing has been going on lately where, due to a shortage of employees over summer vacations, I have been "forced" to work on two of my Off Days. So that means overtime pay of "time and a half", which -- by nothing more than sheer coincidence -- manages to pay off these Beatles remasters! How lucky is that? I didn't want to go into work on my days off, but I tried to rationalize that it at least would help pay for the Beatles Remasters. Are you with me so far? Does this sound fair enough? Okay -- but I want to have the best of both worlds. You see, the year is almost over and I still have 7 vacation days left over, which I like to save for "rainy days" -- days like TODAY, where I told my wife in advance last week, I'd be calling in sick on Friday and Saturday... partly because I needed the break and have not been feeling great, but also because this makes up for those two off days where I was forced into work!! This is standard procedure at my job; if someone works Overtime on an 'off day', they make the "time and a half pay" and then later on, they'll call in sick (w/pay) to make up for the day off they missed! So what's the problem here?? It's MY vacation time; I'm old enough to decide how I wish to use it, and when. As long as I still will be paid in full, what does my wife care? And when all is said and done, I STILL MADE TWO OVERTIME DAYS PAY OF TIME AND A HALF!! -- But this is the biggest problem as far as my wife's concerned ... she yelled at me this morning, not only for taking this weekend off, but "you were supposed to make that extra money for US, and instead you bought those stupid Beatle songs again!!!!!!!!! This is just insane. I mean, I put the money on a credit card, so we'll pay over a period of time; it's not as if I just took all the cash I made for the two overtime days in one lump sum and just bought the remasters. Furthermore, I would have bought these albums anyway even if I hadn't worked any overtime, so we're still ahead. But what's wrong with figuring "hey, they ordered me into work so I'm willing to give up 2 days off in order to pay for my Beatles albums". I mean, I earned it -- I made a sacrifice. And this whole business of my wife always getting pissy any time I choose to call in sick and use my vacation time -- it's my damn vacation!! I get 4 weeks a year, and we use 2 or 3 to go away, and then I have 1 or 2 weeks remaining to strategically use as I feel I want to. I save some of these days for when I'm not feeling great or just need "a mental health day". We don't miss any pay. What's the issue? My wife can be so weird. My wife was the one who reported that she spotted the individual CDs at 7-11 and that I should run down there, and she was perfectly willing to drive me to Best Buy after work on release day to pick up the individual CDs, and that same day she even begged me to let HER buy the Beatles Rock Band Game!! (she never bought it, but she still wants it, and it's $250!!!). So why the change of heart? Oh, and I should also add that my wife has been out of work for 2 years now due to back trouble, and has been receiving a paltry compensation check. I don't mind, except when she busts MY chops.
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Post by mikev on Sept 11, 2009 9:42:44 GMT -5
Joe-is their any chance she already bought them for you as a gift?
That could also be a reason for a sudden backlash.
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Post by Joe Karlosi on Sept 11, 2009 10:03:57 GMT -5
Joe-is their any chance she already bought them for you as a gift? That could also be a reason for a sudden backlash. Oh no, nothing like that. She wouldn't have been cool at first with me buying them both in Stereo and Mono from the beginning!
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Post by John S. Damm on Sept 11, 2009 10:40:09 GMT -5
Joe-is their any chance she already bought them for you as a gift? That could also be a reason for a sudden backlash. Good thought but she did help Joe buy the stereo albums by information and transportation but maybe she bought, or wanted to buy Joe, the Mono Box? It might just be delayed stress of her employment situation. Even the disruption of a daily routine can cause stress: for two years Mrs.K has had the house to herself most of the week and she has her routines and schedules. She adjusts on Joe's weekends or "Off" days and when Joe changes his schedule, it upsets her. Many people, including me, are creatures of habit. When my wife is sick the whole house stops and nothing gets done. When I am sick and stay home my wife gets upset too for some bizarre reason even though she is going to work and I am not disrupting her schedule. I think she worries that I will rearrange the furniture or something. ;D As to the Beatles' remasters and spouses, my wife has been much more tolerant than I ever dreamed. Like Joe, I bought these by credit card but I intend to pay the balance off when first billed and that may be where her displeasure comes in but I'll tell her that it will save money in the long run, no incurral of interest. That's when my wife will go nuts, when I withdraw the money needed to pay off the credit card bill. Long story but she doesn't understand how I am compensated in my legal partnership and she views my year end distribution as sacred "bonus" money never to be touched but secured away in savings and investments. Much of it is but that year end distribution is part of my annual income just paid at the end of each year. Some of it must be spent for us to carry on day to day, it is deferred compensation. My two Beatles' boxes are much cheaper than the Harley Davidson motorcycle she wants to kill herself on! But hell, I am the last guy to try and analyze someone else's spousal problems related to The Beatles! ;D Joe raises a good issue: how are your spouses, significant others, lovers, family or close friends reacting to your outlay of cash or credit on the Beatles' remaster Boxes and/or Rock Band? Please keep the discussions tied to the Beatles' boxes, Rock Band or the Beatles in general as just simple venting about one's spouse or significant other should go in Trials and Tribulations section.
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Post by Mommamissamerica on Sept 11, 2009 16:04:44 GMT -5
Wow. As a single woman, I don't have these problems. But I know that marriage is a compromise and there has to be give & take. But since I do work and would still work if I get married I would have to tell my significant other to stuff it. I work hard and am good at what I do and deal with tons of stress so I deserve to have my Beatley stuff as long as the budget allows. That said I must wait a bit to get my hands on the remasters, times are tight and no more OT at my company means much less dough for me. Good luck you guys!
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Post by fabdba on Sept 11, 2009 20:22:39 GMT -5
Even though my dear spouse is a Beatle person too, he did talk me out of pre-ordering the box sets. I'm really trying not to regret the mono set probably getting away. He says he is sorry he talked me out of that pre-order, and he is sincere about that. He appreciates the Beatles as much as I do and we can talk Beatles far, far into the night.
I had every intention of trying for box sets on 9/9. Due to unforseen circumstances with his health though, we had a big change of plans...
Original plan: Be at Best Buy when they open, and buy whatever I can buy. That's 10 AM. Since I'm the only one working right now, my intention was to ditch out of work, for an hour or so, make the purchase, and go back to work.
Why the plan changed: he had a sudden health issue that required a hasty dr. appt, scheduled of course for 9/9, 2 PM. We only have one car. So I would have had to wait till 1 or so, leave work for the day, get him to the appointment, and still find a way to get those box sets. His regret over the pre-order situation is now making him feel really bad...
So, I went out the night before, Walmart 12 AM. They had all the digi-packs. Bingo! I can get the new music, not ditch out of work at all, as he can now keep the car all day. Before his appointment, he did hit the Best Buy to try for a box set for me. They had some, but they were all reserved to fill pre-orders. So no-go there. He did get to appreciate the atmosphere, like Old Fred reported.
I am fortunate to have someone who appreciates this with me. Hope he sticks around a while.
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Post by John S. Damm on Sept 11, 2009 23:57:00 GMT -5
Wow, yeah I hope your husband is okay too, fabdba! All joking aside, there are more important things than Beatles' records and the well being of a loved one is one of them.
Once your husband gets better, treat yourselves to a mono box(I am sure they can be had or more will be made)and savor it as a health victory memento.
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Post by John S. Damm on Sept 12, 2009 0:12:27 GMT -5
Wow. As a single woman, I don't have these problems. But I know that marriage is a compromise and there has to be give & take. But since I do work and would still work if I get married I would have to tell my significant other to stuff it. I work hard and am good at what I do and deal with tons of stress so I deserve to have my Beatley stuff as long as the budget allows. That said I must wait a bit to get my hands on the remasters, times are tight and no more OT at my company means much less dough for me. Good luck you guys! LOL, I was 37 when I got married so I was pretty set in my ways. That is until I met a certain red-head with more than a little Irish in her and a whole lot of spunk! Now days I do all the giving and she does all the taking. ;D You haven't heard this story yet, Mommamissamerica, but my wife made me take my vinyl record collection to the office and put them in storage because she said it added to clutter in the house. Now she is eyeing my c.d. and dvd collection for expulsion! She said that for every new Beatles' remastered c.d. that came into the house, an old Beatles' c.d. must leave. I would not be surprised to come home from work someday and find that she has "donated" my music collection to some local charity.
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Post by wooltonian on Sept 12, 2009 4:01:10 GMT -5
My problem isn't so much with buying the re-masters (I shall be buying them separately in the fullness of time) but with buying the stereo system with which to listen to them! I have my eye on a modest separates system from Richer sounds for about £300.00. However, since my recent change of career to van driver my salary has plummetted and Mrs. woolie now pays most of the household bills (mortgage, gas etc). So I can just imagine the reaction the day she walks into the living room and there's a bliddy great gleaming new stereo system sitting there. "Hello, darling. Like the new hi-fi? Isn't it nice?" Hmmmm....I'm just not seeing that playing out too well. ...so, my mind is spinning, working overtime to come up with a really compelliing argument, why a family on the verge of bankruptcy needs a smart new hi-fi system, so I can hear a crisper, sharper snare drum on 'Ticket to ride'. Don't worry. I'll come up with something.
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Post by Joe Karlosi on Sept 12, 2009 5:42:21 GMT -5
my wife made me take my vinyl record collection to the office and put them in storage because she said it added to clutter in the house. Now she is eyeing my c.d. and dvd collection for expulsion! She said that for every new Beatles' remastered c.d. that came into the house, an old Beatles' c.d. must leave. I would not be surprised to come home from work someday and find that she has "donated" my music collection to some local charity. No way. No offense, JSD, but that would NEVER fly with me. My wife and I don't even have a house, we rent a modest apartment with two bedrooms.. one bedroom for all "my stuff", and my wife has always been very cool about it, as long as my stuff stays in that room. She doesn't want everything to spill out and clutter up the living room and the rest of the place, and I can understand that. But this business of "I'm going to sell your stuff or put it in storage and you have to lose one CD every time you get another?" Pfffffffffttttt to that. As I hinted at earlier, it's great that my wife is so naive and gullible anyway that I can always put in more DVD movies or CDs/books/collectibles.... and she'll never even notice. ;D
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Post by Cosmos on Sept 12, 2009 9:20:11 GMT -5
I suddenly feel all the more blessed! I really lucked out with my spouse; beauty, intellect and total forgiveness for my music obsessions.
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Post by sayne on Sept 12, 2009 10:35:56 GMT -5
Boy, I guess I'm really lucky on this count. Although I'm not rushing out to get my remasters right away, I don't think it'll be an issue in our household. Here's how I know. Yes, my wife does put up and indulge in my Beatles obsession and she kids around, but she goes with it. To illustrate this point to the max, here's an example which I've told before. I'll just stick with the beginning of the story. Years ago, I was on the computer and said to my wife, "Hey, there's going to be a tribute concert for George Harrison. Paul, Ringo, Eric Clapton, Tom Petty, Billy Preston, Leon Russell , Bob Dylan (remember this is well before details were officially made public), and other friends are going to play." She said, "Sure," thinking it would be in Los Angeles. I paused and said, "It's in England." Without so much as a blink, she said, "Ok." The rest is Sayne history. That's why I doubt I will have a problem buying the remasters. Although I will talk to her about it before I buy them, I wouldn't HAVE to do so. Not when one time I came home with a brand new VOX AC30 amplifier as an impulse buy and she didn't blink because she knew I wanted it and wouldn't have bought it if I didn't need it. Although we don't have a perfect marriage, I think that from the start we had my life, her life, and our life. I think the problem with many relationships is that one or both of the partners feel that a relationship means the denial of "I, Me, Mine." We believe that our respective ME's makes the US stronger. Her interest in jewelery making and art made her HER and my interest in the Beatles and sports has made me ME. Add that to our shared interests and you have two people who do not feel that they have had to compromise, sacrifice, or sublimate any parts of our lives. I don't have a Beatle room and my records and CD's are nicely placed out in the open. So are her art and jewelry making books and magazines. I'm not comparing my situation to anyone else's or drawing any conclusions about other people's relationships. What works for them, works for them. I'm sure and hope that you all have the lives you want. And, for the record, Sayne and Mrs. Sayne do have fights. Usually about should we have brussels sprouts or string beans or should we steam the vegetables or stir-fry them or tofu instead of wheat gluten ;D Sometimes we take people for granted. But, thanks to this thread, I'm reminded how nice things are for me. S'cuse me my while I put on the CD Monster Ballads - the Ultimate Set and go shtup the ol' lady ;D If I'm good (not such a sure thing at my age), she'll offer to buy the remasters for me.
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Post by Joe Karlosi on Sept 12, 2009 10:47:19 GMT -5
And, for the record, Sayne and Mrs. Sayne do have fights. Usually about should we have brussels sprouts or string beans or should we steam the vegetables or stir-fry them or tofu instead of wheat gluten ;D I love my brussels sprouts steamed and pretty nautral - but right next to my meat. Well, hold on a minute -- things are nice for me too, but it's just that I posted in the heat of the moment after one of those type of "fights" like you have! Anyone could do that. Generally speaking, my wife is very tolerant of all my hobbies. Not that she has any choice.
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Post by OldFred on Sept 12, 2009 17:23:27 GMT -5
Will this be the real outcome when Mrs. D gets wise? (Click the photo to make it bigger)
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Post by winstonoboogie on Sept 12, 2009 18:04:16 GMT -5
LOL! Another good one, Fred! We got Rock Band yesterday (pre-ordered thru QVC - sorry, Steve... ). The boys and I played all the way through. My wife patiently sat through most of it (and even sang on "Here Comes the Sun" and "Octopus's Garden!"). But then at 10 pm, when we had just finished the "story", my wife said, "I need the TV now!" (Well, we had hogged it for several hours....). today, out of the blue, she asked, "What? No Rock Band concert?" I said, "What? Wasn't last night enough?" She said, "More than enough!" She was kidding.....I think.....
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Post by Beatle Bob on Sept 12, 2009 20:30:36 GMT -5
, it's great that my wife is so naive and gullible anyway that I can always put in more DVD movies or CDs/books/collectibles.... and she'll never even notice. ;D That's how I get away with it. I acquire them quietly and just slip them into the cabinet as if it's always been there Regards, Beatle Bob
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Post by sayne on Sept 13, 2009 1:16:28 GMT -5
. . . S'cuse me my while I put on the CD Monster Ballads - the Ultimate Set and go shtup the ol' lady ;D If I'm good (not such a sure thing at my age), she'll offer to buy the remasters for me. I musta been pretty good. She asked me if I heard about the new Beatles remasters and if I wanted the stereo one or the mono one. I jokingly said "both" and she said, "Okay, gettum." Woo Hoo!
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Post by winstonoboogie on Sept 13, 2009 10:14:23 GMT -5
. . . S'cuse me my while I put on the CD Monster Ballads - the Ultimate Set and go shtup the ol' lady ;D If I'm good (not such a sure thing at my age), she'll offer to buy the remasters for me. I musta been pretty good. She asked me if I heard about the new Beatles remasters and if I wanted the stereo one or the mono one. I jokingly said "both" and she said, "Okay, gettum." Woo Hoo!
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Post by John S. Damm on Sept 13, 2009 13:45:16 GMT -5
Will this be the real outcome when Mrs. D gets wise? (Click the photo to make it bigger) LMAO! Hey, how did you know my wife is a red-head? Don't answer that Fred! That was funny. Really my wife has belatedly been okay on these. It didn't hurt that her older brother was raving on how he would love to own the remasters and I almost heard a tone of boast in her voice when she told him, "Oh, John got both boxes on release day!" I guess now we are hip for having them. I didn't correct her to say the Mono Box came a day early via bestbuy.com. ;D
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Post by OldFred on Sept 13, 2009 16:36:44 GMT -5
LMAO! Hey, how did you know my wife is a red-head? Don't answer that Fred! I have my secrets, Johnny.
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Post by winstonoboogie on Sept 13, 2009 20:14:49 GMT -5
Will this be the real outcome when Mrs. D gets wise? (Click the photo to make it bigger) LMAO! Hey, how did you know my wife is a red-head? Don't answer that Fred! That was funny. Really my wife has belatedly been okay on these. It didn't hurt that her older brother was raving on how he would love to own the remasters and I almost heard a tone of boast in her voice when she told him, "Oh, John got both boxes on release day!" I guess now we are hip for having them. I didn't correct her to say the Mono Box came a day early via bestbuy.com. ;D That was wise.
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Post by winstonoboogie on Sept 13, 2009 20:16:00 GMT -5
LMAO! Hey, how did you know my wife is a red-head? Don't answer that Fred! I have my secrets, Johnny. ;D
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Post by Mommamissamerica on Sept 14, 2009 11:56:53 GMT -5
Wow. As a single woman, I don't have these problems. But I know that marriage is a compromise and there has to be give & take. But since I do work and would still work if I get married I would have to tell my significant other to stuff it. I work hard and am good at what I do and deal with tons of stress so I deserve to have my Beatley stuff as long as the budget allows. That said I must wait a bit to get my hands on the remasters, times are tight and no more OT at my company means much less dough for me. Good luck you guys! LOL, I was 37 when I got married so I was pretty set in my ways. That is until I met a certain red-head with more than a little Irish in her and a whole lot of spunk! Now days I do all the giving and she does all the taking. ;D You haven't heard this story yet, Mommamissamerica, but my wife made me take my vinyl record collection to the office and put them in storage because she said it added to clutter in the house. Now she is eyeing my c.d. and dvd collection for expulsion! She said that for every new Beatles' remastered c.d. that came into the house, an old Beatles' c.d. must leave. I would not be surprised to come home from work someday and find that she has "donated" my music collection to some local charity. Blasphemy!!!! OMG, if that were my spouse it would have to happen over my dead body. You must be a saint.
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Post by John S. Damm on Sept 14, 2009 12:21:01 GMT -5
LOL, I was 37 when I got married so I was pretty set in my ways. That is until I met a certain red-head with more than a little Irish in her and a whole lot of spunk! Now days I do all the giving and she does all the taking. ;D You haven't heard this story yet, Mommamissamerica, but my wife made me take my vinyl record collection to the office and put them in storage because she said it added to clutter in the house. Now she is eyeing my c.d. and dvd collection for expulsion! She said that for every new Beatles' remastered c.d. that came into the house, an old Beatles' c.d. must leave. I would not be surprised to come home from work someday and find that she has "donated" my music collection to some local charity. Blasphemy!!!! OMG, if that were my spouse it would have to happen over my dead body. You must be a saint. LOL! I feel persecuted like a saint but I am not a saint. ;D
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Post by revolver66 on Sept 14, 2009 14:18:41 GMT -5
Great reading all these threads. I know I'm lucky as my Wife is a Music lover. However she loves Heavy Metal the best(Not Hair Metal) but stuff like Metallica,Slipknot,Type O Negative(which are her Beatles),Ozzy etc.. We both usually tolerate or truly enjoy each others Music/Hobbies etc..She knows the importance of the Beatles and likes some of the songs. What she likes best is the pleasure and happiness I get from them.I feel the same towards her. That's the way it should be with all Married Couples. It has to work both ways though!! P.S JSD my wife is A Red Head too!! ;D
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Post by John S. Damm on Sept 14, 2009 14:38:45 GMT -5
Great reading all these threads. I know I'm lucky as my Wife is a Music lover. However she loves Heavy Metal the best(Not Hair Metal) but stuff like Metallica,Slipknot,Type O Negative(which are her Beatles),Ozzy etc.. We both usually tolerate or truly enjoy each others Music/Hobbies etc..She knows the importance of the Beatles and likes some of the songs. What she likes best is the pleasure and happiness I get from them.I feel the same towards her. That's the way it should be with all Married Couples. It has to work both ways though!! P.S JSD my wife is A Red Head too!! ;D Ha, my wife is into heavy metal too and loves AC/DC best! But unlike me, she's content to mostly hear the music on the radio and only has a very modest collection of c.d.'s. She doesn't understand my need to own the music in a physical form. She would be more modern than me and be happy if I put everything into an I-Pod. But I don't see the posters here who have a ton of music on their I-Pods then getting rid of their records, compact discs, tapes, whatever. The folks here seem to use the download format to listen to their music with more mobility. It seems most of you are keeping your c.d.'s and vinyl. I found two cool boxes at my office that were long and narrow for ink cartridges for printers. These were perfect to store compact discs in! I drug over 100 compact discs to New Orleans with the boxes in the back seat while we drove and then locked in the trunk when lodging. Hmmm, maybe my wife is right and I need to buy an I-Pod with lots of space!
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Post by gripweed on Sept 14, 2009 14:45:35 GMT -5
LOL! Another good one, Fred! We got Rock Band yesterday (pre-ordered thru QVC - sorry, Steve... ). The boys and I played all the way through. My wife patiently sat through most of it (and even sang on "Here Comes the Sun" and "Octopus's Garden!"). But then at 10 pm, when we had just finished the "story", my wife said, "I need the TV now!" (Well, we had hogged it for several hours....). today, out of the blue, she asked, "What? No Rock Band concert?" I said, "What? Wasn't last night enough?" She said, "More than enough!" She was kidding.....I think..... Winston which game platform are you playing Rockband on?
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Post by winstonoboogie on Sept 14, 2009 20:21:35 GMT -5
LOL! Another good one, Fred! We got Rock Band yesterday (pre-ordered thru QVC - sorry, Steve... ). The boys and I played all the way through. My wife patiently sat through most of it (and even sang on "Here Comes the Sun" and "Octopus's Garden!"). But then at 10 pm, when we had just finished the "story", my wife said, "I need the TV now!" (Well, we had hogged it for several hours....). today, out of the blue, she asked, "What? No Rock Band concert?" I said, "What? Wasn't last night enough?" She said, "More than enough!" She was kidding.....I think..... Winston which game platform are you playing Rockband on? PS3. Do you have it? If so, which format?
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Post by gripweed on Sept 14, 2009 20:33:25 GMT -5
Winston which game platform are you playing Rockband on? PS3. Do you have it? If so, which format? No, I don't have it. I was just wondering if there is any consensus on which is the best platform. Or if it even matters. I would have to buy one and then the rockband also. I saw one was being sold for $299 but I don't remember which platform.
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Post by gripweed on Sept 14, 2009 20:39:27 GMT -5
We subscribe to sirius and that is all my wife listens to anymore. I don't buy a lot of CD's and she would only say something if I took money out of savings to buy the box set.
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